True Trust in God When Your Marriage Is Failing
When your marriage is crumbling and prayers feel like they're bouncing off the ceiling, the temptation is to make deals with God. Most Christian men think trust means believing God will give them what they want—a restored marriage, a changed wife, a happy ending.
That's not trust. That's negotiation. And God doesn't negotiate with His children—He transforms them.
What Real Trust in God Actually Means
Trusting God doesn't mean believing He'll give you what you want. Trusting God means believing He is good even when He doesn't.
It means believing that His purposes are higher than your comfort. That His glory is more important than your happiness. That His plan is better than your plan—even when His plan involves your crucifixion.
Job understood this when he declared in Job 13:15: "Though he slay me, I will hope in him."
That's trust. Not "God, I'll obey if you make my life better." But "God, even if you kill me, I'm still Yours."
Trust When Everything Is Stripped Away
The prophet Habakkuk painted an even more vivid picture of what this looks like in practice:
"Though the fig tree should not blossom, nor fruit be on the vines, the produce of the olive fail and the fields yield no food, the flock be cut off from the fold and there be no herd in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the LORD; I will take joy in the God of my salvation." (Habakkuk 3:17-18)
That's trust. Rejoicing in God when everything is stripped away. When your wife won't talk to you. When your kids are distant. When your reputation is shot. When your finances are wrecked. When every earthly thing you've built your identity on crumbles.
Can you do that?
The Test of Your Faith
This is where the rubber meets the road in your marriage crisis. God isn't testing whether you can pray harder or try different tactics to win your wife back. He's testing whether you'll trust Him when those tactics fail.
He's asking: Will you still follow Me if I don't give you the marriage you want? Will you still obey My Word if your wife never changes? Will you still pursue righteousness if it costs you everything?
This isn't about giving up on your marriage. It's about surrendering your agenda to God's. It's about becoming the man He's calling you to be, regardless of the outcome.
Trust That Transforms
Here's what happens when you truly trust God in your marriage crisis: You stop trying to manipulate outcomes and start focusing on character. You stop demanding results and start embracing the process. You stop fighting God's plan and start fighting for His glory.
And paradoxically, this kind of trust—this death to self—is often what opens the door for real transformation in your relationship.
Warriors inside my program use our Wingman app to transform themselves into a man who can pull this off — not just in the short term, but in a way that the change is lasting for his wife.
This has been another chapter from the Book of Bob.
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